Love At First Sight? How About Love Without Sight?

*The following is my own article, written at http://www.paragonproject.com/forums*

Man's modern view of attraction is that it probably comes from being good looking, rich, successful, etc.

Probably very low on the list of attraction-creating skills is maintaining positive conversation.

Proven through the following example, that thinking is absolutely WRONG!

My friend Allison was at her cousin's beach house and over AOL Instant Messenger, I chatted with her. Allison's cousin had never seen a picture of me, met me, or ever even heard of me previously. One thing led to another and somehow I ended up chatting with Allison's cousin after Allison had returned home.

Our chats started out basic: school, work, hobbies, interests, etc. Through the advantage of distance, we felt comfortable talking about more personal topics as our chats progressed.

All throughout these chats I would tease her, hype myself up, and subtly display that I was a guy girls fall in love with.

Before long a sexual tension was created and it wasn't much longer when she told me something like this:

"This may sound creepy and weird and I've never even met you, but I have feelings for you. I just can't explain it, but there is something about you that just draws me to you."

MAGIC!

I could be the ugliest, poorest man alive, yet she was confessing her attraction to me simply because of the interest and the attraction I created through online conversation!

Society Sabotages YOUR Love Life!

How many times has mommy told you that girls love nice guys, chocolates, and roses?

How many movies have told you that love is some magical, perfect, fate-inspired force?

How many songs have told you that everything will be ok and that love will work out perfectly?

And you should always pay for the girl, right?

I listened to my mom and to the movies and to the songs and to the fairytales.......and I was left with a hole in my pocket and a hole in my heart.

After months of paying for dates, for gifts, being the nice guy, and waiting for fate to save my dying relationship, I opened my eyes. I was a couple months too late to save my relationship, but I wasn't too late to turn my life around.

People like to believe that love is something beautiful and magical and that is why it is portrayed so in movies, songs, and the cute advice your mom wants to tell you before you realize the harsh truth of reality.

Love is simply an emotion the body feels to encourage people to have sex and carry on the human race. Romantics wish it was more, but it isn't. Mankind is programmed to survive and love makes sure that people don't avoid it.

Does it bother you that love is scientific and based on biology? Well then it would probably bother you to know that attraction isn't based on the pull of the moon either.

Scientific biological response is THE ANSWER to attraction and love.

What is Invisible, Illogical, and Powerful Enough to Start a War?

Done scratching your head?

The answer is ATTRACTION!

Many of us have seen the effects of attraction, but I don't think anyone has physically seen attraction.

Many of us have thought about attraction, but not many of us ever totally understands why "Guy A" falls for "Girl B," yet "Girl B" falls for "Guy C."

Many of us have read and heard about the epic Trojan War, brought on by the theft of Helen, but not many of us realize that modern attraction can still be just as powerful.

While my goal in this post isn't to explain or advise on how to create attraction, I do plan on demonstrating its power and defiance for logic.

I think the best example is the abusive relationship. Why do people often hear of stories where a guy will abuse his girlfriend yet she will still love and care about him? The girl is so attracted to the guy, that she believes that her boyfriend is still worth it.

Or what about the more commonplace example of some guy going out and buying some girl a car, a house, and hundreds of roses? Let's not forget about the pages of love letters and never ending phone calls.

Tons of examples exist, but more would be redundant. Attraction, the essence of love, is powerful. Powerful enough that one is willing to do ANYTHING for someone whom they feel great attraction for.

Do you have any crazy stories of the power of attraction? Do you doubt its power? Comment away.