Wispy's Search for Answers in Love and Life

Launch of BATM.com

2008-12-05T13:33:00.000-08:00

Faithful readers, I have spent the majority of my time building a new website where you can now find the same great content and material. The website gives me more flexibility in designing what I write, the layout, and provides an increased traffic source.

Enjoy!

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The Red or Blue Pill

2008-11-03T05:32:00.000-08:00

Would You Take the Leap of Faith?

If you could open your eyes and see things in a way you never knew about, would you?

Would you take the red pill and learn the true perception of reality?

Or would you take the blue pill and return to your state of comfort and ignorance?

Everyone faces that question in various aspects of life.

For example: Do you believe in God? What about an afterlife? Are there other forms of life in the universe?

Similarly, the question is relevant in matters of girls and relationships.

Open Your Eyes to Social Dynamics

If someone were to tell you that you could have any girl you wanted, but it would take faith and devotion, would you believe it? Or would you close your eyes to the potential reality? Would you take the red pill or the blue pill?

Every man who struggles with that question and stumbles upon ways to improve his relationships ponders that question to some degree. Many people choose the blue pill and remain in their comfortable ignorance living a life of mediocre relationships, mediocre girls, and mediocre sex.

However, a very rare and special person takes the red pill. It is this person that isn't afraid to take a leap of faith and open his perceptions to new and uncomfortable possibilities. Often this leap is spurred by a cataclysm, creating a strong desire for "the answer." Examples are breaking up with a girl or a losing patience for a life of struggling and not only wanting something more, but being willing to do anything for that something more.

Here at the Paragon Project we took the red pill. Every single one of us, at some point, chose to take a leap of faith and look for the answers to our social lives and love lives. Simply put, we were looking for something more than our comfort zone and wanted it bad enough. Some won't keep the faith and will lose motivation, but others will take the risk and the leap of faith and be infinitely rewarded.

Is such a thing so impossible if man has spent eternity pondering questions of God and life?

Or an even better question:

Are you the person that chooses the blue pill and closes your eyes to hidden realities?

Or are you the rare exception who takes red pill and embraces the leap of faith?

Let's see.

Persuade Through Confidence

2008-10-28T20:13:00.001-07:00

Have you ever been in a tight situation where you need to talk your way out of it?

Do you ever need to convince someone something?

Want people to believe you more easily and trust you more?

The answer is CONFIDENCE! No matter how unsure of yourself you are on the inside, you need to portray unmoving belief in yourself.

Every top-of-the industry performer, athlete, or leader has been nervous in a situation, but it is self-confidence that helps him excel to the top.

Try This Line!

2008-10-24T18:33:00.000-07:00

Here is one of my all-time favorite lines for creating attraction in a girl because it teases her and makes you seem real mysterious.

Keep in mind this only works if you already have decent game and girls absolutely will refuse to believe you.

When the opportunity arises say: "I've actually never kissed a girl before. Girls are gross."

Don't believe me? It's reverse logic. Try it.

Be Social, Have Fun!

2008-10-11T17:30:00.000-07:00

"You can't expect to win the game, if you don't play." - Wispy

If you don't even bother to go out and socialize, you can't expect many relationships.

The success and satisfaction of your social life is directly proportional to the time you devote to it. Spend time with old friends, spend time making new friends, and spend time meeting girls.

The more you socialize with girls, the more success you will have with them. Tons of my friends are better looking than me, but aren't involved with half the girls I am. They don't socialize and constantly work on meeting new girls.

"Think fun, not outcome." - Orlandomac

Don't worry about being awkward or not being successful. Go out and have a fun time socializing. Meet new people and take pleasure in communication and expression. Ask everyone for their numbers and network them into your social circle.

5 Easy Ways to Start a Conversation

2008-09-21T11:01:00.000-07:00

1. Ask a question.

2. Comment on a person's clothing/accessories.

3. Get an opinion.

4. Discuss recent news or politics.

5. Make an observation

10 EASY WAYS TO BE MORE ATTRACTIVE!

2008-09-20T20:40:00.000-07:00

1. Dress nice and be clean.

2. Be positive and upbeat.

3. Socialize, socialize, and socialize even more.

4. Don't be a whimp.

5. Exude confidence.

6. Display high value.

7. Get physical (in a non-creep way)

8. Speak with a clear strong voice.

9. Be a challenge.

10. HAVE FUN!

Never Get Dumped Again - Avoiding Apathy

2008-09-13T08:17:00.000-07:00

*The following is my own article, written at http://www.paragonproject.com/forums*

Avoid Apathy

I know the cause of over 90% of the breakups in legitimate relationships.

I know why girlfriends go out and cheat on their guy.

I know why the divorce rate in America is over 50%.

APATHY.

From this writeup, I hope people learn how to identify and safeguard against relationship apathy.

Apathy is defined as a lack of interest in or concern for things that others find moving or exciting. This can relate to how you look, what you say, and how you behave. Apathy is commonly found in the stage of a relationship, where the couple is comfortable with each other and mutual feelings have been established.

How many times have you seen your friends get pussywhipped into a routine with their girlfriend, resulting in a boring go-nowhere relationship?

How many times have you simply had your girlfriend over for a movie and not bothered to get dressed up or splash on some cologne?

And the MAJOR ONE....

How many times have you stopped being an exciting challenge and turned into a whimp because the girl is already yours? I can't tell you how many people have had a girl hooked and lost it because they quit their confident dominant role in the relationship.

I'll tell ya one thing. None of those relationships are exciting and none of them will last simply because of relationship apathy!

Whether you are seeing your girlfriend of a few years on the weekend or whether you are going out on your 1,000,000th date, treat it as your first. You know....the first date where you were stylishly dressed, had your best cologne on, and had an exciting fun date planned that you couldn't wait to go on.

Don't fall into the trap that tons of newbies, married men, and pros alike have fallen into. It happens to everyone. An old girlfriend of one year would come over a few times a week for a movie and sex, EVERY WEEK. I wouldn't get dressed up, I wouldn't plan anything special, and even though I loved the girl and enjoyed the relationship it eventually came to a close since I didn't keep it exciting and challenging.

Don't let relationship apathy happen to you!

Stay vigilant and constantly check your looks, words, and behaviors for apathy!

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What do you guys think?

Has this ever happened to you?

Agree/disagree?

Respect?

Love At First Sight? How About Love Without Sight?

2008-01-17T10:39:00.000-08:00

*The following is my own article, written at http://www.paragonproject.com/forums*

Man's modern view of attraction is that it probably comes from being good looking, rich, successful, etc.

Probably very low on the list of attraction-creating skills is maintaining positive conversation.

Proven through the following example, that thinking is absolutely WRONG!

My friend Allison was at her cousin's beach house and over AOL Instant Messenger, I chatted with her. Allison's cousin had never seen a picture of me, met me, or ever even heard of me previously. One thing led to another and somehow I ended up chatting with Allison's cousin after Allison had returned home.

Our chats started out basic: school, work, hobbies, interests, etc. Through the advantage of distance, we felt comfortable talking about more personal topics as our chats progressed.

All throughout these chats I would tease her, hype myself up, and subtly display that I was a guy girls fall in love with.

Before long a sexual tension was created and it wasn't much longer when she told me something like this:

"This may sound creepy and weird and I've never even met you, but I have feelings for you. I just can't explain it, but there is something about you that just draws me to you."

MAGIC!

I could be the ugliest, poorest man alive, yet she was confessing her attraction to me simply because of the interest and the attraction I created through online conversation!

Society Sabotages YOUR Love Life!

2008-01-15T09:31:00.000-08:00

How many times has mommy told you that girls love nice guys, chocolates, and roses?

How many movies have told you that love is some magical, perfect, fate-inspired force?

How many songs have told you that everything will be ok and that love will work out perfectly?

And you should always pay for the girl, right?

I listened to my mom and to the movies and to the songs and to the fairytales.......and I was left with a hole in my pocket and a hole in my heart.

After months of paying for dates, for gifts, being the nice guy, and waiting for fate to save my dying relationship, I opened my eyes. I was a couple months too late to save my relationship, but I wasn't too late to turn my life around.

People like to believe that love is something beautiful and magical and that is why it is portrayed so in movies, songs, and the cute advice your mom wants to tell you before you realize the harsh truth of reality.

Love is simply an emotion the body feels to encourage people to have sex and carry on the human race. Romantics wish it was more, but it isn't. Mankind is programmed to survive and love makes sure that people don't avoid it.

Does it bother you that love is scientific and based on biology? Well then it would probably bother you to know that attraction isn't based on the pull of the moon either.

Scientific biological response is THE ANSWER to attraction and love.

What is Invisible, Illogical, and Powerful Enough to Start a War?

2008-01-07T13:56:00.000-08:00

Done scratching your head?

The answer is ATTRACTION!

Many of us have seen the effects of attraction, but I don't think anyone has physically seen attraction.

Many of us have thought about attraction, but not many of us ever totally understands why "Guy A" falls for "Girl B," yet "Girl B" falls for "Guy C."

Many of us have read and heard about the epic Trojan War, brought on by the theft of Helen, but not many of us realize that modern attraction can still be just as powerful.

While my goal in this post isn't to explain or advise on how to create attraction, I do plan on demonstrating its power and defiance for logic.

I think the best example is the abusive relationship. Why do people often hear of stories where a guy will abuse his girlfriend yet she will still love and care about him? The girl is so attracted to the guy, that she believes that her boyfriend is still worth it.

Or what about the more commonplace example of some guy going out and buying some girl a car, a house, and hundreds of roses? Let's not forget about the pages of love letters and never ending phone calls.

Tons of examples exist, but more would be redundant. Attraction, the essence of love, is powerful. Powerful enough that one is willing to do ANYTHING for someone whom they feel great attraction for.

Do you have any crazy stories of the power of attraction? Do you doubt its power? Comment away.

Enlightenment Through Experience, Suffering, and Pain

2007-12-29T23:23:00.000-08:00

With the start of my blog, it is only necessary that my first post features the start of my passion. Knowledge of attraction would have always been nice, but where did the thirst for this knowledge become a burning obsession? I wasn't always enthralled by everything I heard about attractions, girls, love, and life.....

Like millions of other guys before me, I fell for a girl and thought I was in love. I was naive, disillusioned, and I dug myself into one hell of a hole. Having found a girl that matched the feelings I felt for her, I did everything in my power to please her and to avoid offending her. I would mask my desires, reschedule my plans, and do anything to make her happy. Therefore it was a huge shock when I found her cheating on me and breaking up with me.

For months I was depressed and strung along through "friendship" only to be manipulated and beat up. However, my story differs from the stories of millions of other guys because I had the drive to change myself. I had the drive to devote countless hours to learning where I went wrong and what I should do right. If a meaningful relationship can contribute so much to one's health and happiness, why not put the same time into it as people put into learning calculus or geography, disregarding the wasted time people spend watching T.V. or making excuses. How many people have gotten the same happiness from those activities as they have from a loving relationship? Regardless, society doesn't emphasize learning about social skills in proportion to the benefit, which is why it is important to make time and achieve this happiness.

My goal through this blog is to help set others on the right path without going through the learning pains I had to. Many people want to improve, but a small fraction of those are willing to make the improvement a reality. It isn't until one has suffered and been through hell that they seek the path to heaven. While I can't force anyone to take the right path, I can patiently await those who have suffered like I did. When that time comes I will be here looking to share my views, knowledge, and thoughts on all matters relating to improving one's self, particularly in regards to relationships.

For the full details of my heartbreak, covering my mistakes and naivity, and a glimpse of just how off-target I was visit http://paragonproject.com/forums/viewtopic.php?p=260#260.

Note: Often with posts I will feature additional content that would normally be too lengthy for wandering readers. This content can be found on the website where I serve as a volunteer editor and contributor, www.paragonproject.com. Registration is free and a whole new world of knowledge is contained there. I am not paid for any of this. My reward is the appreciation I receive.